Elizabeth and Will (in their sixties)
After more than thirty years together, we found ourselves in a place that many long-term couples know well. Intimacy had lost much of its excitement, and even our best efforts—reading the requisite advice, trying new toys, experimenting with different positions—failed to rekindle the energy we once took for granted.
Julian entered our lives thanks to a heartfelt recommendation from a close friend of Eliza’s. I confess that I was deeply skeptical at first, but witnessing how our friend’s mood had shifted in recent times was enough to set aside my reservations.
Looking back, I’m profoundly grateful. With Julian’s guidance we could finally recognize the subtle assumptions we’d held about how sex "should" be. We’d always thought of ourselves as open-minded, but only in this process did we see how our judgments had quietly shaped and constrained our experience. Once those mental barriers were lifted [...] there’s so much more we want to explore together that we almost feel compelled to hurry. It’s a bit astonishing, at this stage of life, to rediscover desire in such a way.