Not many sexual feats are more challenging than making a vagina owner orgasm by wielding your penis. We need to stay hard and we need to last. A look at the data shows us that the odds of success are slim. Only 20% of women orgasm from penetration alone (Herbenick et al., 2018).
I personally believe that this number is so low because A) some women might not be able to orgasm from penetration and B) many men simply lack the groove. The latter is something we can change because thrusting is a learnable skill. I have broken down the champions league of dick game into three bread-and-butter techniques that you can use to blow her mind.
A mighty thrust starts with anatomical wisdom
The reason why so many penis owners have no idea what the right motion in the ocean means is that they are not considering the anatomy. Our bodies have more nerve endings in certain areas than others. When you try to tingle a kid you are not rubbing the back of their hand because it doesn't evoke the response you are looking for. The reason is that the back of the hand is usually not a ticklish area for humans.
The female anatomy allows us to sprinkle in a whole lot of variety to make the magic happen. While thrusting we predominantly pay attention to 1) the clitoral glans, 2) the G-spot and 3) the A-spot. These areas are all particularly sensitive and prone to facilitate sexual arousal or even induce orgasm. Fuck yeah.
The clitoris can be considered the female pleasure center. It's much bigger than most people think and the majority of enjoyable sensation stems from the stimulation of the clitoris. As a woman gets more aroused, the erectile tissue of the clitoris fills with blood, just like a penis. In a sense, the clitoris is like an iceberg. You can barely see the tip.
The clitoral glans
If an area of the female body can be considered the center of lust then it's the clitoral glans. The clitoral head is practically the equivalent of the tip of the penis. At 6000 - 8000 nerve endings, the clitoral glans is the sexual body part with the highest concentration - twice as much as the penis (Carroll, 2018).
With that, it's not a surprise that this pea-sized area is extremely sensitive. You need to be careful when touching it. Especially without lubrication, low arousal, or straight after an orgasm touching the glans directly is often perceived as painful. Please be careful and warm your partner up.
About 80% of women can't orgasm from penetration alone. However, most women can experience an orgasm through clitoral stimulation (Herbenick et al., 2018). Now you see that incorporating the clitoral glans is a winning strategy.
The G-spot, also Gräfenberg spot, is located 2-5 cm on the anterior wall of the vaginal tube. Scientists are divided about its existence (Hines, 2001). Recent research indicates that it's indeed a thing (Mollaioli et al., 2021). I have never met a woman that doesn't have this spongy, rough, nut-shaped texture. Yes, it varies in size, texture, firmness, etc. Though, it's always distinct from the surrounding tissue. This area will swell and become more pronounced the more aroused your female lover becomes. Science also is divided about whether it's part of the clitoris or whether it plays a role in female ejaculation (ibid., Ostrzenski, 2019).
I'll make this straightforward: For the practical mission to get a woman as much pleasure as possible this area is 100% relevant. Stimulating the area in the right way (with your fingers) has a high rate of leading to squirting. It's also possible, albeit less common, to cause a female ejaculation with a penis.
This is where we lose any scientific clarity. There is almost no literature on this. The A-spot is about 12-19cm deep inside the vagina. This spot is not relevant if your penis isn't above a certain length (because you won't be able to reach it). Generally, there are some women who enjoy stimulation in this area. However, we must be careful because hitting the cervix is often perceived as painful. In other words, we need to tread carefully.
Toys add more than sparkles
I love toys. They are tools that help me to bring more pleasure to my lovers. In general, you can use all kinds of toys during sex. Your imagination shall be limitless. Still, inspiration never hurts. So here are two incredibly amazing amplifiers for your thrusting.
Couples vibrators like the We-Vibe Chorus are ideal to complement your thrusts because they target the clitoral glans and the G-spot with vibrations.
The toy comes with a remote control so you are always in full control of the intensity of the stimulation. No matter how you thrust, a couple's vibrator will enhance the stimulation by a huge margin.
Vibrating cock rings
Modern cock rings are available with powerful vibrations. For instance, this We-Vibe Verge not only helps you stay harder but also has the capability to target either your perineum or your partner's clitoris.
Especially the first thrusting technique becomes an otherworldly experience for your partner through clitoral stimulation.
Thrusting technique 1: the inserted gyration
About 76% of women use a technique that is called "rocking" to make penetration more enjoyable for them. Rocking is when a woman moves back and forth instead of up and down to increase the stimulation of her clitoral glans (Hensel, 2021).
We can do something similar that works stand-alone or makes rocking even more stimulating. For this technique, we push the penis all the way in (if possible, the bigger you are, the more careful you need to be). Instead of thrusting in and out, we are just gyrating with our hips, either back and forth or in a circular motion. You want to position yourself in a way that your pubic bone (the part above your shaft) presses on her clitoral glans.
Ejaculatory control: Another big advantage of this technique is that it's not as stimulating for you. So you can use this if you need a break because you are close to orgasm. Generally, this is a great technique for starting penetration, because it facilitates arousal and is perceived as less rough. Here is a guide to last longer.
Best sex positions
Generally, all positions where you can press your pubic bone into her vulva work well.
Thrusting technique 2: the shallow drill
84% of women move in a way that the penis stimulates the first third of the vaginal tube during sex (Hensel, 2021). This female pleasure enhancement technique is called 'shallowing'. Many women do this because that's where their sensitive G-spot is located.
The shallow drill utilizes the G-spot by angling our shallow thrusts steeply toward the belly button. Rotate your pelvis to achieve the right angle. We don't go in deep but we are really trying to hit the G-spot hard. Start mildly and as your lover gets more aroused you can get quite fierce.
Always make sure that she enjoys herself by reading her body language (guide) or asking. This thrusting technique also has the highest likelihood of causing a female ejaculation or squirting. For this to occur the pace and force has to be very high.
Best sex positions
Look for positions where you can easily hit the G-spot at a steep angle.
Thrusting technique 3: the deep scrape
Almost 88% of women use 'angling' as a sexual enhancement technique during penetration. This is when a woman raises, tilts, or lowers her pelvis to help their lover hit the right spots (Hensel, 2021).
When we deep scrape we are practically checking the most sensitive areas in one powerful stroke. We start out tilting our pelvis so that we hit the G-spot as effectively as possible, then we continue to scrape down the anterior wall as we reach deeper with our penis. Ideally, we stimulate the A-spot without hitting the Cervix (some women like it, communication is important). The cherry on top is that in some positions we can also stimulate the clitoris a bit as we go "balls deep" if the anatomical dimensions allow for that.
Ejaculatory control: The deep penetration is also extremely pleasurable for you because your entire penis is subject to high levels of friction. That means that it can be difficult to keep up at a high pace of deep thrusting without getting too excited.
Best sex positions
Pick positions that leverage the natural curve of your penis (if you have any) so that you can stimulate the highly sensitive spots along your lover's anterior wall. You also need to achieve a deep thrust comfortably so that you can keep up the intensity without tiring quickly.
Be creative with your thrusting
Don't go straight to pound town. Build anticipation, and create a surprise. You can mix these techniques, vary shallowness and depth, pace and force. Whatever you do, think about whether it makes anatomical sense and enjoy it as much as possible. Ultimately, the best technique in the world is useless if you can't be present with your lover. Sex is about connecting with one another and there is nothing that women find more arousing than lovers that show that they enjoy themselves.
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